you cannot have amule and amuled at the same time because they are both downloading and accessing your files...so this would screw them up
what you could do is to enable amule-remote-gui on compile time
--enable-amule-gui
this is a remote-gui to access a running deamon
if you want to run amuled once and same time later amule just dont use the flag "disable-monolithic" on compile time, this will build alos the normal amule
but remember DONT run amuled and amule at the same time, always use amule-remote-gui to acces a running daemon!!!