i know people get very impatient when their questions are not answered right away, but asking the same questions in multiple threads is certainly not a good idea...
i had almost finished writing a reply to your problem in this thread when i realized that you had asked the exact same question at a different place (with the informative topic "I really need big time help with amule") and ken had already answered it. this is not a good use of people's time. plus, postings like these make the forum harder to read for other users (those who actually do a search before they post their problems

).
anyway, the bottom line is: think before you write, think while you write, and be patient...

i'm glad your problems are worked out and you are now a happy member of the mac amule community...

for anyone having similar problems as the ones described above, ken has provided some excellent answers
in this thread.