heho
first of all you need wxBase-2.5.3 to work on a server without X.
2.5.3 is the first version which supports amule-daemon, so you cannot use apt-get for install, you have to compile yourself.
and for your "configure detect" problems which you seam to have is due to missing, wxGTK-devel. and also some of your configure statements are nor right, it shoudl eb
--enable-amule-daemon not --enable-amuledaemon, but a closer look at --help will help ya

but like i said you NEED wx2.5.3 of daemon will not get enabled!!
stefanero