Latest cvs snapshot did not compile on my system, but I think that I may have resolved the problem: it probably was a very silly action I have done without proper brain work.
When compiling in home dir I obviously need to start the program stating to add my wx dir to LD_LIBRARY_PATH so, while amule is running and that statement is 'alive' I should definitely NOT install anything with YAST or run LDCONFIG, otherwise my library database gets pulluted with the home compiled wxwidgets.
Now I cleaned the system, recompiled wx and amule (standard rc8 version) and kdeinit is doing is job again.
Sorry to have bothered you all
Just in case, a little warning in the wiki page related to suse home dir compiling could help other silly chaps like me
Max